How
To Make Your Move Easier on Your Family
People
generally have two kinds of needs during a home purchase.
First are the transactional needs, such as searching for a
home, obtaining financing, negotiating the terms of purchase,
completing paperwork and legal documents, and arranging the
move. The second are emotional needs that are involved in
a home purchase, which can be where the most stress occurs
in a home purchase. The following are just a handful of tips
to help you and your family ease the stress of moving.
Prepare
your children
Although
you may have lived in your current residence for just a few
years, the same few years can be half the lifetime of a seven-
or eight-year-old, and can include all the years he or she
can remember. Your current residence may be the only home
your children have ever known, where they feel safe and comfortable.
It may be the center of your childrens' world.
Be sure
to announce the move in a completely positive way. You might
talk about how beautiful the neighborhood is and how good
the schools are. Bring your children to the new house, if
you live close enough that it is possible to do so. Otherwise,
positively describe the new house. Find out what your children's
favorite things are in your current home, and then try to
re-create them in the new home. Keep your children actively
involved in the process. For instance, don't just promise
that they can decorate their new rooms, but take them shopping
for paint, bedspreads, carpets, and other items that will
make the experience more fun and comforting.
Your
children are bound to have worries, fears, and sorrows during
the move. They may be moving away from friends and family
they have known their whole lives. Find ways to make parting
pleasant. You can plan a going-away party and let your children
invite their own guests. Take pictures of everyone and create
a photo album. If your children are old enough, allow them
to take pictures of the neighborhood that they will want to
remember.
Gain
Knowledge
You may
feel a sense of being out of control, as though other parties
to the purchase transaction are running the show and you're
merely getting in their way. Your mortgage company, the appraiser,
the inspector, and the seller all have certain powers to approve
or disapprove of your overall plan to purchase this home and
move successfully. This is certainly not easy!
Although
this can feel stressful, one of the best things you can do
for your own peace of mind is to understand as much of the
purchase process as possible. Your Realtor® will be able
to prepare you for unknowns ahead of time and tie down loose
ends as soon as possible.
Trust
the process
There
can be so much to do that it's easy to panic. It may feel
like you're taking a big risk, but the truth is that you're
initiating a big opportunity for you and your family. Even
though you can't predict what will happen every step of the
way, your Realtor® helps people buy and sell homes as
a profession! Your Realtor® has been there before and
understands that this is a major upheaval in your life. Trust
that your Realtor® is looking out for you on your way
to a successful closing and move.
Be
flexible
Knowing
that your Realtor® will do everything possible to prepare
you for the various processes involved in your home purchase,
and will tie up those loose ends quickly and efficiently,
it's important for you to remember that there is no such thing
as a perfect world. The property inspection may reveal areas
of concern, or closing may be delayed for some reason. Try
to take a deep breath and be flexible in your thinking. You
will have a much greater chance of making your decisions based
on logic and not high emotion.
Seek
entertainment
Whenever
you feel that things are spinning out of control, find a diversion!
Take a walk around your new neighborhood, go on a day trip
out of town with your family, or take your family to a movie.
Whatever diversion or outlet works best for you, this is a
good time to engage in it! Remember to take one "move"
at a time.
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